Addicted to darkness 

I think there are some people who are inherently sad. People are born with their fair share of woes but there are some among them who seek out the darkness. There are some who choose to be happy no matter what and there are some that struggle to find happiness but still try. And then there are those who are addicted to the darkness. They feed off their unhappiness and misery. Even when they have something good they seek to destroy it because they probably believe they need to be punished for being happy. They are lost without their pain. 

How do you help someone like this?

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17 March 2016

It’s been days since I wrote personal post or any kind of update. It seems like the last few posts have only been about planners. I guess, while I am obsessing about planners, I’m also not writing about anything else because I’ve been down.

I’ve been swamped with work and I think I’m just burnt out. Charred and crispy! I’ve also been unwell and the bucket load of meds I’m taking are just making me so tired and depressed. I don’t feel like being my usual self, not that I’m a super bubbly person. But I am not so sullen for sure. I’m moping around work and just trying to get through the day.

I come home utterly exhausted and have no time to even thing about writing something. Anyway, it’s the weekend for me and I’m hoping things get a bit better. I do want to start the 30-day blog challenge which I got from Josie’s blog. If you haven’t seen her blog, please do. It’s a great blog called Mind Jo Business. She’s a warm, witty, caring person and her blog is simply fantastic. Happy Reading!

 

 

LV Agenda MM – Medium Ring Agenda Cover

Since I decided to move back into the personal size Filofax, I wanted something lightweight. I do have a few nice ones but, for some reason I dusted off my LV.

This is called the LV Agenda in Taiga and it’s the MM size, which is the medium size. It has 6 rings and the spacing is similar to the Filofax Personal or the Franklin Covey Compact size. I have the one in black.

It’s quite a compact planner and sleek looking. The cover is black with a hidden popper, 6 credit card slots and business card pocket on one side, secretarial pocket on the other. One pen loop. I’ve put some pictures at the bottom.

I had splurged on this a couple of years ago as a gift to myself when I got promoted. I had my initials put in as well. They don’t emboss it for you, they just heat stamp it.

What’s awesome about this planner:

  1. The leather is coated so it does not get scratched easily or discoloured.
  2. It super lightweight probably because of the the type of leather.
  3. It lays flat
  4. The cover has a very muted LV emboss, so it has a classy feel to it. I really wouldn’t want my planner to scream LV. (at least not the one I take to see clients)
  5. The size is more like a FC Compact rather than a Filofax, so it takes the larger FC size paper without sticking out (it’s 5.5 x 7.1 inches). (The page lifters in the picture below are from FC.)
  6. The inside is very simple, but it has a secretarial pocket, which I want and the card slots are really comfortable for those who use them.
  7. The rings seem to be smaller than 1 inch but I like the size. Somehow, even when it’s full, it holds it shape and feels compact. No bulging.

What’s not nice:

  1. The pen loop is not comfortable at all. So I just insert the pen by the clip instead of the whole pen.
  2. The rings are of poor quality. They seem very flimsy to me for some reason. I also feel that they will become misaligned in time or with heavy use. Let’s see. I guess LV can replace it for me. It’s the least they should do given the considerable amount spent on it .

I don’t know why I haven’t used this planner more often given all the positives. I think it’s because of the rings. I felt heavy duty use would break it. But now I really want to use it because I realised it’s lightweight enough for me to carry a lot of paper without getting too heavy (I’m trying out two calendars).

All in all, it’s been a great investment and I’m glad I bought it.

LV frontInterior LVInterior Back

How to plan your planner

A5 Filofax Holborn

Even though I’ve been using a paper planner for years now, I realize that every once in a while my planner fails. I also get very fidgety and often change up my system, or even my whole planner. When this happens I go through my basic steps and re-evaluate what I’m doing.

One thing I’ve learned over the years is while a planner is meant to keep you on track, sometimes you need to keep track of your planner.

Whether you’ve been using paper planners for years or are a planner newbie, here are some quick tips that have helped me:

  1. Make a plan: List out all the things you will be using your planner for. Work or personal or both. I can’t have separate books. I’ve tried and failed miserably. I need to have just one.
  2. Decide on a calendar: Personally, a planner without a calendar is simply useless for me. I need to have dates. So the next thing you need to decide is a format of your calendar depending on how many timed appointments you have. I used to use the calendar to write out my to-dos for the day. I quickly realized that I was re-writing stuff all the time. So now I have deadlines in my calendar and to-do’s on a sticky note that I can move from week to week.
  3. Keep your to-dos with your calendar: Either try to schedule in time for your to-do’s or put them with your calendar. As I mentioned in the previous point, I now use sticky notes on my weekly lay out.
  4. Make sections: I always thought project sections that came with the Filofax were for people who did project-based work in the office. I realized over time that anything can turn into a project. For example, if you have a client that has multiple requirements and there’s a number of internal approvals / research required, this can be a project. Something like planning a birthday party can also be a project. I think the person who does this best is Giftie Etcetera. Please check out her website and YouTube channel to learn so much about how to get these things right and plenty more.
  5. Keep important info/ tel numbers written down in one place
  6. Make sure you have a place to stuff paper: We all have the burden of printouts and receipts. You have to ensure planning system can carry some scraps of paper until you can process it.
  7. Don’t make it heavy: While a stuffed planner looks beautiful, it quickly becomes a burden. Not just in terms of weight but also in terms of never actually finding things in your planner. Keep it light, clean out often and keep it functional.
  8. Don’t be afraid to change: Our lives change constantly and so do our planning needs. There will be periods of time when you need a heavy duty binder and other times when a simple pocket notebook will do. You don’t have to stick to one system. Change is good, change keeps things fresh.
  9. Have fun: For a planner to be useful, it’s needs to be used. If you think you’re planner is too ugly, too fat, too weird… you won’t use it. You have to love your planner, not be ashamed to pull it out in public. It must be comfortable to write in. If you think decorating will make you love it, by all means do that. But don’t forget, it’s meant to be a tool, not a piece of art.

Once I run through these things, it’s easier for me to decide how to switch up my planner and the flexibility I need.

I hope this is useful. I’d love to hear and learn more so if you have any tips, please do comment. Thanks!