Win by making you weaker

Today I came across a few sentences in a book that seemed so appropriate for some people I know. I know the words are said in a different context in the book but, they still seem to apply.

Seen ’em all over the country and in the homes – people who try to make you weak so they can get you to toe the line, to follow their rules, to live like they want you to. And the best way to do this, to get you to knuckle under, is to weaken you by gettin’ you where it hurts the worst. … you’re up against a guy who wants to win by making you weaker instead of making himself stronger

~Ken Kesey “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest”

It got me thinking of so many people who I work with. In the corporate world and probably in other settings too, this is a common phenomenon I’ve come across.

People seem to want to put you down, instead of building themselves up. I would think that it would be easier to actually better yourself to look good instead of trying to look good at someone else’s expense. But sadly, the reality is that this world is full of insecure people. People who think that the best way to get ahead is by blaming others or making others seem inadequate, when it’s actually them who are inadequate themselves. People fear the unknown and the insecurities give rise to bad behaviour and you end up working with a bunch of toxic people.

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5 thoughts on “Win by making you weaker

  1. I could relate fully. I, too, had a post with this kind of experience. People are just people. There are a few who struggle to rise from their mediocre thinking and be much better. This is only what we can do. To join with the few in their flight. That one day, no matter how much people will try to bring us down, they would be unable to do so; for we know far better.

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  2. “I would think that it would be easier to actually better yourself to look good instead of trying to look good at someone else’s expense. ” —- so insightful and I agree. Let’s try to be the ones who better ourselves. The less insecurity, the better!

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